Many of life’s most enjoyable activities require you to work quickly. A game of Boggle, for instance, or eating a 99 in the heat of summer.
Sex is certainly an enjoyable activity; it’s up there with board games and ice cream in my books.
But good sex isn’t about sprinting to the finish line. Taking the time to engage in electrifying foreplay is crucial if you want to knock your partner’s socks off.
Here are 5 tried-and-tested foreplay moves that your lucky lady is bound to love.
1. Undress Her
This is a classic foreplay act and it’s a great one to pull out of the bag if you’ve been in a relationship for a while.
In the beginning, you were tearing each other’s clothes off, but now that you’ve been together for some time, you probably just take off your own clothes in a frenzy.
Slowly undressing your partner like the total gift that she is, will make her feel extra sensual. Bonus points if you buy her some sizzling lingerie, then gradually peel it off her body as the evening heats up.
2. Show Her That You Knead Her
The great thing about erotic massage is that you’re showing your partner that you’re not just out for yourself – you want them to feel incredible as well.
Incorporating massage into your foreplay is also ideal if you partner struggles to relax during sex or finds it hard to be in the moment.
In 2016, a Finnish study found that their female subjects tend to value their partner’s orgasm more than their own.
If your lady-love consistently makes your pleasure a priority, then it’s time to start returning the favour.
Put on some sexy tunes, light one of Sultry Secrets Massage Candles and tell your lover to get comfortable.
If you feel like your massage is going to be less sexy and more sleep-inducing, read How to Give An Erotic Massage first.
3. Give The Girls Some Love
If your partner has breasts, make sure you don’t neglect them.
All of us are guilty of being too crotch-centric at times (i.e blindly bolting straight to the P or V and ignoring all the other juicy erogenous zones), so make an effort to give her boobs the attention they deserve.
Try slowly kissing the nipple and the surrounding area to begin with.
If your partner is especially into breast and nipple play, it may be worth bringing some toys into the bedroom to really blow her mind.
4. Dirty Talk
Dirty talk can feel intimidating if you’ve never tried it before, but this kind of foreplay has so many benefits. Just as we get turned on by what we see and feel, we also get turned on by what we hear.
Dirty talk sets fireworks off in your partner’s brain as your wicked words stimulate her imagination. Plus, dirty talk is a great way to get the communication flowing in your relationship.
You’ll find out what she likes and dislikes in bed if you take the time to whisper sweet nothings in her ear.
If you’re worried about getting all tongue tied, read How To Feel Great While You’re Talking Dirty.
5. Head South of the Border
Oral sex might seem like a basic foreplay staple, but I can’t stress it enough.
Women that consistently receive good, attentive oral sex from their partners have a better chance of reaching orgasm.
In 2017, The Kinsey Institute found that women in same-sex relationships orgasmed more frequently than women in heterosexual relationships, and this was partly due to the duration and quality of oral sex that the women in same-sex relationships were receiving.
So, when I mention ‘oral sex’ here, I’m not talking about a 30-second kiss-and-fumble. I mean a proper 10-minute session that has you writing the alphabet with your tongue.
If you want to take things up a gear, try Orgasm Balm for tingly sensations she’ll love.
Important: Reaching orgasm doesn’t have to be your ultimate goal when you’re having sex, so don’t feel as though you’re doing it ‘wrong’ if you’re not all about The Big Finish.
By the same token, your partner might not particularly like oral sex and that’s ok, too. It’s important to talk these things through so that everyone involved has a good time.
These are just 5 foreplay moves to get you feeling inspired.