Pregnancy can be an odd time – your body’s changing, hormones are shooting everywhere and you’re always completely knackered. But, you’re still you, and you can still enjoy sex as much as you used to before you fell pregnant – you may just have to… you know… mix it up a bit!
As an expectant mother, you’re obviously going to have a few questions about maternity sex and the way you and your partner get it on might change throughout the nine month period. It’s the great time to find new, fun and exciting ways to explore each other and increase intimacy, whether you actually decide to have sex or not.
Sultry Secrets is here to give you some top tips on having the perfect sex during your pregnancy, but first, we’ll answer some most common questions many expectant mothers and fathers have.
IS IT SAFE TO HAVE SEX WHILE PREGNANT?
Sex during pregnancy is perfectly safe unless you’ve been advised by your doctor that there may be complications. If you have had any bleeding or spotting in early on in your pregnancy, make sure you speak to your doctor or midwife about sex and get the answers you need.
Once you have the green light, that means you’re good to go! Having sex won’t hurt the baby in any way, shape of form and if your pregnancy has no complications, having sex or having an orgasm will not increase your risk of going into labour – in fact, there are many proven health benefits of orgasms(trust us). So if you feel like giving it a go… go for it!
WILL IT FEEL DIFFERENT?
Each person experiences pregnancy completely differently and there’s no right or wrong way to feel. Some women I have spoken to reported having very tender breasts, which can affect lovemaking. Many couples might feel a bit nervous about having sex so avoid getting intimate at all.
The most important thing is to listen to your body. Stop if anything feels uncomfortable or change up your normal style to accommodate your changing body.
I WANT SEX SO MUCH MORE/LESS THAN USUAL! IS THIS NORMAL?
Yes, both are defiantly normal! In the first trimester of your pregnancy, your estrogen and progesterone hormone will levels rise, and these changes can lead to tiredness, queasiness and a loss of sex drive.
On the other hand, once the first trimester is over, many women can’t get enough of it! Thanks to extra blood flow, you’ll be feeling much more sensitive down there and each touch can feel amazing. Often women report experiencing multiple orgasms for the first time they have sex during pregnancy.
Again, it’s different for every single woman. But what’s most likely to happen is that your libido will fluctuate depending on how you’re feeling emotionally and physically.
So now we’ve got those important questions out of the way, Sultry Secrets is here to help you have the best maternity sex possible! Follow our top tips to help you and your partner keep things fun and hot throughout the nine months.
COMMUNICATION IS KEY
It’s very important to be open and honest with your partner during the whole of your relationship, but voicing how you are feeling during pregnancy is notably important. If you’re sleepy, sore or just nervous about the process, let your partner know. Reassure them, get them to be open and honest with you about how they’re feeling about the process, as well.
This way, you can work through all of this together. Discovering what makes you both feel great and in the mood (such as a long relaxing bath together or just a bit of cheeky dirty talk) will greatly help both you bond and make your sex life much more fun!
EXPLORING AND MAINTAINING INTIMACY
As your body changes over this time, so will the different ways you enjoy sex. This is a really exciting time as you can enjoy exploring the different ways you can pleasure each other.
If your sex drive isn’t high, you can experiment with massages, touching each other in different ways or with a sex toy (make sure you check with your doctor or midwife that this is okay first). It’s important to remember that you can have a fun and varied sex life without actual penetration(check out our blog on this), and often just a Clit Stim vibrator is a pregnant woman’s best weapon of choice!
If you feel a bit dry down there but still fancy getting busy, it’s completely safe to use a water-based lube to get things going and make it a bit easier.
WHAT POSITIONS ARE BEST?
If you fancy getting down with your partner in the first trimester, as your body wouldn’t of changed that much, your sex life can pretty much continue as usual!
As you start getting bigger and your uterus grows, a few positions might become uncomfortable and or strange. We’ve looked at the best positions for couples, we’ve made sure they’re all comfortable but still super sexy!
The Spoon – Our stand out favourite intimate position! This is brilliant for pregnant couples as it puts no pressure on your stomach yet gives an almost full body contact experience. Lie on your side with your partner’s chest on your back. Your partner can then enter you from behind as you both lie on your sides.
Side by side – In this cracker of a position, you and your partner should lie side by side, facing each other. Then, your partner should put his leg over yours and enter you from an angle. Again, it takes the pressure off your stomach and is a great position for lots of eye contact.
Cowgirl/Reverse Cowgirl – With Cowgirl, you’ll be in full control so you can keep the pace comfortable. Straddle your partner on a chair on the bed. Take full control of speed and depth for a ride you’ll both love.
WHAT POSITIONS SHOULD WE AVOID?
From the second trimester, it’s going to be best to avoid these positions where you’re lying flat on your back, like the missionary position. This can lead to extra pressure which you don’t want as this could restrict blood flow to your placenta.
As you get closer to the nine-month finish line, some women feel uncomfortable with penetration, so prefer to avoid certain positions, like doggy style.
Pregnancy doesn’t mean that you automatically become a non-sexual being at all. You should be listening to your body and what it wants and needs, this does include sex! As long as you have spoken to your doctor/midwife about the do’s and don’ts of your own pregnancy, you can have a fun and varied maternity sex life!